This is not the one that goes 'You have to be cruel to be kind'.
This is about being cruel to survive this mad, mad world.
I was never in a situation where I had to go out and look for a job, nor was I in a situation where I had to defend my rights and voice out my thoughts to my boss over another employee/student that were being mean to me. Haha macam budak kecik.
Well, there's always a first time right?
Today is a particularly bad day. Maybe I am meant to meet a 'peculiar' person every single semester, be it a tutor, or a student. Yes, 'peculiar' (I refuse to use the word jahat as I am trying to build a positive atmosphere here. Tehee)
Hubby says I am too polite and that's why people bully me. Whenever I wrote a complaint email to my boss, I try to cushion it a bit so that person does not appear so jahat and I don't appear too emotional.
Ijah told me she has stopped being all nice and polite after being in Emirates for sometime. She's realized that people will not stop stepping on you for as long as they think they can. No matter how we try to rationalize the behavior, we couldn't. Some people are just built that way and there's nothing that we can do about it, really.
There's two ways of going about it. One - to be as cruel as them. To always put my needs and my wants first. To do whatever it is takes to get what I want, even if it means having to be cruel or rude to others. Second - to stick to who I am, but to grow bigger than all of them that I become unaffected by what people do or say to me.
Which one would you guys choose?
I know I'd have a hard time choosing the first, not because I don't want to, but because I can't. So, I have no choice but to resort to the latter. I also think I'll be a better person by choosing the latter. I know one person who has no problem being the latter as he has always been that all his life.
Did I told you guys how much I am looking forward to 2011? Well, I am ;)
There's a lot to be hopeful for and I pray to God that all will be smooth sailing. Everything is looking up, and I am loving this positive vibe that I have with me right now and hope this will stay throughout the year, and more.
I hope all of your wishes are granted too, dear friends. God willing.
XoXo, love ya all.
After A While
2 years ago